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Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. Psychologist (1950-2013)
California License No. PSY 10092
 
Specializing in Presence-Centered Therapy
balancing mind and heart, body and spirit
 


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Pacing Skills: On the program "Prescriptions For Health," an audio conversation between radio host Len Saputo, M.D. and Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. on the relevance and development of outstanding pacing skills. Broadcast on KEST AM 1450 radio in San Francisco, California in 2002      OPEN AUDIO FILE (13 minutes)

Video Clips

1. What's In Your Backpack? NEW

2. Three Realms of Life, Context is Key NEW

3. The Illusory Realm NEW

4. The Empirical Realm NEW

5. The Absolute Realm NEW

6. The Absolute Breaking Through the Empirical NEW

7. An Acid Test For Reality

8. Four Meanings of Ego

9. Illusions—Conscious Choice?

10. Contest—Part 1

11. Contest—Part 2

12. Everyday Illusions

13. Illusions Are Not Real

14. How Do You See Illusions?—Part 1

15. How Do You See Illusions?—Part 2

16. Einstein Helps Us See Illusions

17. Presence—Part 1

18. Presence—Part 2

19. Witnessing—Part 1

20. Witnessing—Part 2

21. CHOICE—Blockages and Structure

22. CHOICE—Apparent Choice

23. Exploring "Apparent Choice"

24. Five Strategies To Be Free—Part 1

25. Five Strategies To Be Free—Part 2

26. The Remarkable Power of Intuition

27. Website Introduction

 

1. What's In Your Backpack?

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. uses the metaphor "What's in your backpack?" from the 2009 film "Up In the Air" to explore the meaning of life in the three realms of the illusory, the empirical world and the Absolute in terms of emptiness and surrender. This is an edited clip of his June 17, 2010 presentation entitled "What's In Your Backpack? How Emptiness/Surrender is Seen in the Illusory, Empirical World and the Absolute" at the First Paradoxica Conference on Nondual Psychology held at the University of Lethbridge, Lethbridge, Alberta, Canada. Gary Nixon, Ph.D., organizer of the conference and editor of Paradoxica, an online peer-reviewed journal of nondual psychology, makes the opening introduction.

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2. Three Realms of Life, Context is Key

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. briefly describes the three realms of life--the illusory, empirical world and the Absolute--and discusses how all truth value and meaning in the empirical everyday world derives from context. Several metaphors are used to illustrate the incredible value of context in a modern world ever more bereft of context in our individual ego-mind's and collective ego's (that is, wego's) dizzying race for speed, money, pleasure, information and security.

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3. The Illusory Realm

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. uses descriptive words as pointers and signposts to the ego-mind's illusory realm or "fake world" of conceptualizations, taking the forms of beliefs, false identities, roles, judgments, distinctions and stories. Illustrations help flesh out how seductive the mind is in leading us to believe in what is simply not real. Once each of these apparent objects in the illusory realm is seen for just what each is, this serves as a springboard and catalyst to naturally shed who one is not, leaving purely who one truly is--True Self, Original Nature and the transparent authentic liberated self.

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4. The Empirical Realm

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. uses descriptive words and examples as pointers and signposts to see how the empirical world is real enough on its own terms, that is, concrete objects in the phenomenal relative world. At the same time, the empirical realm or "dream world" is filtered through the ego-mind's lenses such that we see the mind's version or perceptions of the world, not the world in itself, especially when it is perceived within the illusory contexts of past and future time. The core abilities of presence and witnessing consciousness are proposed as essential to have the possibility to not only inhabit the present (all that is real), but further to observe, surrender and outgrow the fictive ego-mind as a false self, naturally revealing the True Self.

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5. The Absolute Realm

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. uses descriptive words and examples as pointers and signposts to illuminate some sense of the Absolute realm, fully aware that it is unknowable and unfathomable by the mind. The core abilities of presence and witnessing consciousness are proposed as essential to have the possibility to not only inhabit the present (all that is real), but further to observe, surrender and outgrow the fictive ego-mind as a false self, naturally revealing the True Self, the closest we come to Oneness, Being, Existence and the Absolute.

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6. The Absolute Breaking Through the Empirical

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. explores different forms and expressions when the Absolute breaks through the empirical world.

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7. An Acid Test For Reality (4 Minutes, 49 Seconds)

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. looks at a simple litmus paper test for what is reality and what is a construct or concept, such as a belief. What is real is our direct experience in this moment. There is no useful purpose or need met to believe what is directly in front of us here-and-now.

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8. Four Meanings of Ego (8 Minutes, 50 Seconds)

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. teases out three highly functional understanding and service of the term "ego" or "mind" as well as one completely unworkable meaning of ego. Embracing the three services and understandings of ego that fully support life and eschewing the one function of ego as an imaginary or false identity is encouraged for a satisfying and fulfilling life.

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9. Illusions—Conscious Choice? (7 Minutes, 29 Seconds)

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. explores three undeniable factors that have profound impact upon human behavior, all of which serve as pointers that powerfully undercut the myth of "conscious choice." At the same time this deconstruction of the illusion of conscious choice also highlights a whole bevy of other illusions our minds dream up which, when cleared, open up the space to abide in "apparent choice" and being who we truly are—the True Self or liberated authentic self.

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10. Contest—Part 1 of 2 (8 Minutes, 21 seconds)

The first of two video segments hosted by psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. focusing upon a contest to name what everything is on a white board and further offer some understanding what the four categories of items are that are each in a different color. The winner actually wins a beautiful collection of landscape paintings by George Demont Otis. Hint: not everything is as it seems. Second hint: your ego-mind as a separate false identity is not your friend.

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11. Contest—Part 2 of 2 (6 Minutes, 16 seconds)

The second of two segments hosted by psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. focusing upon a contest to name what everything is on a white board and further offer some understanding what the four diferent colored items are. The audience grapples with exactly what each of these categories of illusions are. What exactly are all these illusions hiding? What remains behind when they all are cleared away?

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12. Everyday Illusions (6 minutes, 17 seconds)

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. leads the listener through a number of everyday illusions to remember and re-experience for yourself just how the ego-mind seemingly plays tricks on us, often at our expense, chagrin and surprise. The mind seemingly has a mind of its own!

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13. Illusions Are Not Real (9 Minutes, 57 Seconds)

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. explores the realm of the illusory. How can anyone see an illusion that by definition is unseen and unseeable as well as believed to be true within the mindset and mentality that it was created within? One neat trick! Standing in presence witnessing the mind from outside the mind to see what it is up to now provides clarity and reveals illusions as not reality.

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14. How Do You See Illusions?—Part 1 of 2 (6 Minutes, 49 Seconds)

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. leads the viewer through a timeless poem and a classic realistic illustration that serve as powerful pointers to pause, look and see for yourself not just the content of awareness, but Awareness itself. In observing illusions for just what they are (not real), what escapes our mind's attention is what remains (that is real)—Presence and the True Self or the authentic liberated self

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15. How Do You See Illusions?—Part 2 of 2 (6 Minutes, 29 Seconds)

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. leads the viewer through two classic illustrations, one that is true and another that is fictional, that serve as powerful pointers to pause, look and see for yourself not just the content of awareness, but Awareness itself. In observing illusions for just what they are (not real), what escapes our mind's attention is what remains (that is real)—Presence and the True Self or the authentic liberated self.

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16. Einstein Helps Us See Illusions (7 Minutes, 48 Seconds)

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. explores three awarenesses by physicist Albert Einstein that are pivotal in helping us see illusions: (1) "Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one"; (2) "No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it."; and (3) Einstein's description of five progressive ascending levels of intelligence: “Smart, Intelligent, Brilliant, Genius, Simple.” The great danger is all the illusions that remain undetected. Einstein also said, “It's not that I'm so smart, it's just that I stay with problems longer.”

17. Presence— Part 1 of 2 (8 Minutes, 54 Minutes)

The extraordinarily ordinary realm of this present moment or Presence is evoked by psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. in an incredibly simple and profound experience the viewer has an opportunity to inhabit. Viewers can tap into time orientation by noticing what percentage of time do they show up in the past, present and future. Once a calibration is made by experiencing the present moment (a taste or free sample of enlightenment or illumination), the percentages tend to dramatically change, as you will see.

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18. Presence—Part 2 of 2 (5 Minutes, 3 Seconds)

The extraordinarily ordinary realm of this present moment or Presence is evoked by psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. in an incredibly simple and profound experience the viewer has an opportunity to inhabit. Viewers can tap into time orientation by noticing what percentage of time do they show up in the past, present and future. Once a calibration is made by experiencing the present moment (a taste or free sample of enlightenment or illumination), the percentages tend to dramatically change, as you will see.

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19. Witnessing— Part 1 of 2 (7 Seconds, 1 Second)

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. explores the realm of presence, and especially witnessing the mind from outside the mind to see what it is up to now. The natural and learnable abilities to inhabit the present moment (presence) and therein see the mind from outside it (witnessing) are seen as the most impactful ones anyone could develop to experience a happy, satisfying, fulfilling and contributive life. The metaphor of a fish cannot see itself in water, just as the mind cannot see itself, is offered. To see the water the fish must get out of the water, just as getting out of the mind is essential to see the mind. Possibilities galore ensue.

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20. Witnessing—Part 2 of 2 (4 Minutes, 20 Seconds)

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. explores the realm of presence, and especially witnessing the mind from outside the mind to see what it is up to now. The natural and learnable abilities to inhabit the present moment (presence) and therein see the mind from outside it (witnessing) are seen as the most impactful ones anyone could develop to experience a happy, satisfying, fulfilling and contributive life. The metaphor of a fish cannot see itself in water, just as the mind cannot see itself, is offered. To see the water the fish must get out of the water, just as getting out of the mind is essential to see the mind. Possibilities galore ensue.

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21. CHOICE—Blockages and Structure—Part 1 of 2 (4 Minutes, 36 Seconds)

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. shares three levels of operating out of choice: (1) the all-pervasive blockages to choice; (2) a workable definition and structure for operating out of choice; and (3) four undeniable realities that powerfully impact human behavior that completely undercut choice. He encourages using a functional structure to live by choice while also knowing that the best we can offer is to have the leeway to operate out of "apparent choice."

22. CHOICE—"Apparent Choice"—PArt 2 of 2 (5 Minutes, 31 Minutes)

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. shares three levels of operating out of choice: (1) the all-pervasive blockages to choice; (2) a workable definition and structure for operating out of choice; and (3) four undeniable realities that powerfully impact human behavior that completely undercut choice. He encourages using a functional structure to live by choice while also knowing that the best we can offer is to have the leeway to operate out of "apparent choice."

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23. Exploring "Apparent Choice" (8 Minutes, 14 Seconds)

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. discusses the impersonal, spiritual or divine "will" or "self" that actually makes all the choices, especially whether to follow the imaginary self or ego or not. As "mind-body mechanisms" we are actually "instruments" through which our activities flow through. In exploring "apparent choice" the more you constructive adapt to genetic predispositions, move through and release beliefs born of environmental conditioning, make the unconscious conscious and be fully present, the more life, choice and consciousness you have.

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24. Five Strategies To Be Free—Part 1 of 2 (7 Minutes, 31 Seconds)

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. portrays five of the most powerful approaches or strategies to be free, being your own authority, set the imaginary ego-mind free, and living your own true life in the realization, expression and embodiment of the True Self or authentic liberated self.

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25. Five Strategies To Be Free—Part 2 of 2 (8 Minutes, 40 Seconds)

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. portrays five of the most powerful approaches or strategies to be free, being your own authority, set the imaginary ego-mind free, and living your own true life in the realization, expression and embodiment of the True Self or authentic liberated self.

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26. The Remarkable Power of Intuition (4 Minutes)

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. discusses common experiences of attuning to intution and notices the remarkable power that lies latent and often untapped inside.

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27. Website Introduction (4 Minutes, 49 Seconds)

Psychologist Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. provides a warm introduction and welcome to his professional website that offers a treasure trove of his highly practical articles and a remarkable set of annotated resource links.
 

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