Welcome to the archived web site of
Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. Psychologist (1950-2013)
California License No. PSY 10092
 
Specializing in Presence-Centered Therapy
balancing mind and heart, body and spirit

Now in memoriam - This website is no longer being updated
While Dr. Friedman is no longer with us, there are still many helpful resources on his site. Articles and resource links have been relocated to the top. His family hopes you might find them helpful. But since this site is no longer being updated, some links may no longer work.

 


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Skills For Life: The Core Playing Field | Free the Ego, and You Are Free | Feeling, Thought, Communication & Action

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Strategies/Distinctions For Life: Free the Ego, and You Are Free

The End of All Arguments

© 2011 by Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved Worldwide.
 

"How much longer do you want to continue your argument with reality?"
—Adyashanti

"If you're arguing with what is in the moment, you're arguing with God. . . "
—Chetan Vartman

"In a fight between you and the world, bet on the world."
—Attributed to both Franz Kafka and Frank Zappa

Know it or not, almost all of us can decide to develop the capacity to keep our equanimity as we honestly not agree with another's views or perceptions, while still refusing to argue. Equanimity, synonymous with serenity and inner peace, is simply keeping your feeling balance with minimal if any reactivity in any situation. In fact, every one of us can and does choose our attitude at every moment.

As there are no true beliefs, so there are no legitimate arguments. All arguments are purely fictive egos fixating on a position and "going at it" with another ego doing the very same. Usually the ego-mind perceives itself being "right" and another ego-mind as being "wrong." People rarely even remember what the argument was about, and when they do, almost without any exception, it was utterly petty, trivial and ridiculous. Arguments are egos on grand parade, making up stories upon stories, making drama out of the emptiness and space, creating an illusory, self-righteous something out of absolutely nothing. Is this self-constructed tempest worth sacrificing your life over?


George Demont Otis     California

What if we take nothing personally? If we don't become attached, fixated and over-invested in our point-of-view or being "right," then we have the freedom to notice our common ground and diversity. So what?! Without our ego taking positions coupled with dispassionate, compassionate acceptance, there's no room for fighting or arguments with life. From this vantage point you can afford to bear a shared humanness and our being of the same God-stuff, no matter how "not the same" we see anything. What ever happened to equanimity, integrity, good will and "live and let live" anyway??

 
© Copyright 2013 by Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D.
 
 


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