Welcome to the archived web site of
Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. Psychologist (1950-2013)
California License No. PSY 10092
 
Specializing in Presence-Centered Therapy
balancing mind and heart, body and spirit

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Skills For Life: The Core Playing Field | Free the Ego, and You Are Free | Feeling, Thought, Communication & Action

Strategies/Distinctions For Life: The Core Playing Field | Free the Ego, and You Are Free

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Strategies/Distinctions For Life: The Core Playing Field

THE LADDER OF COMMITMENT

© 2011 by Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved Worldwide.
 

 100%  = BEING —> DOING 
As 
90%
= I DO Significant Risk of Loss
  
80%
= I WILL Commitment

When?70%
 
= I CAN No Commitment
60%
 
= I THINK I CAN
50%
 
= I MIGHT Little Risk of Loss
If?40%
 
= I SHOULD 
30%
 
= I TRY 
20%
 
= WHAT IS IT?
What?10%
 
= I WON'T 
0%
 
= I CAN'T 
>0%= I DON'T WANT TO KNOW

There are three components to a "commitment":

  1. SAY IT: Make a public statement of intention.
     
  2. STATE A DATE AND TIME: State a date and time for starting, finishing and provide timely accurate updates as conditions change
     
  3. DO IT: Follow through in actions, that is, have your intentions be matched in your behaviors


George Demont Otis     Trees and Creek, Richardson Bay

You can spot impractical attitudes by listening for key words and phrases. One such series of triggers I learned from my son Gregory. A ten-year-old, he talked frequently about his fifth grade teacher Steven Chase and a poster called "The Ladder of Achievement." Curious, I asked Gregory to copy it for me. Here is my adaptation, called the "The Ladder of Commitment."

This map gauges just what level of commitment we're really operating on at any moment in a particular area of our life. On the right side are percentages from > 0 to 100 for recognizing a full commitment to a specific plan of action. From > 0% to 70% we aren't committed at all. At 80% your intention to commit is present. At 90% we're engaged in a commitment and reach completed commitment at 100%.

An alternative map is provided on the left side of this chart. On the levels of commitment from > 0% to 20% we operate from stage "What?," meaning what is the issue and why do I have it? At levels 30% to 50% we function from stage "If?," as in, if I ever get around to it, find some way to accomplish it or find someone to perform it for me. On levels 60% to 80% we perform from stage "When?," that is, operate with a positive perspective and public intention to take an action at a set time and place.

At the levels of commitment from 90% to 100% we are finally operating from stage "As," that is, we are engaging in necessary actions or have accomplished the action in question. As an action takes place, there little question about its certainty. The opportunity the chart offers is to see ourselves rise daily on the ladder of commitment, little by little, or even bigger and bigger. The action of seeing and accepting the step or level you or another are operating on, without exercising negative judgments, propels our movement to the next stage. Simply notice what the about from life tells you. Being honest doesn't mean you can't also be kind.


George Demont Otis     Santa Venetia Valley

 
© Copyright 2013 by Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D.
 
 


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