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Specializing in Presence-Centered Therapy
balancing mind and heart, body and spirit

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From His Book | Meditations For Life | The Flow of Money, Business and Innovation | Transpersonal/Mind-Body | Approaches, Worldview and Will-isms

Skills For Life: The Core Playing Field | Free the Ego, and You Are Free | Feeling, Thought, Communication & Action

Strategies/Distinctions For Life: The Core Playing Field | Free the Ego, and You Are Free

Awakening Stories/Metaphors For Life: The Core Playing Field | Free the Ego, and You Are Free | The Way It Is

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Quotes For Life 6
 

When the power of love is greater than the love of power, we will have true peace.
—Jimi Hendrix

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The unknown is not measurable by the known. Time cannot measure the timeless, the eternal, that immensity that has no beginning and no end. But our minds are bound to the yardstick of yesterday, today, and tomorrow, and with that yardstick we try to inquire into the unknown to measure that which is not measurable, and when we try to measure something which is not measurable, we only get caught in words.
—Jiddu Krishnamurti

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I yam what I yam, and that's all that I yam.
—Popeye

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Semper ad astera [Always to the stars]

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"Nothing" is the force \ That renovates the World.
—Emily Dickinson

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War is not the answer for only love can conquer hate.
—Marvin Gaye, "What's Going On"

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Don't play what's there, play what's not there.
—Miles Davis

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Making the simple complicated is commonplace; making the complicated simple, awesomely simple, that's creativity.
—Charles Mingus

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When there is presence, all that is illusory falls away, and what is left is real, vital, and passionately alive. This is life full on-not my life, not anyone's life, but simply life.
—Tony Parsons

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We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.
—Albert Einstein

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To the mind that is still the whole universe surrenders.
—Lao Tzu

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We don't have to let go, we simply have to not hold on.
—Joseph Goldstein

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You can have your beliefs. Just don't believe in them.
—Leonard Jacobson

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The truth is beyond belief.
—Leonard Jacobson

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I don't pretend and I don't compromise.
—Bob Dylan

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The real does not die, the unreal never lived.
—Nisargadatta Maharaj

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Nothing real can be threatened.
Nothing unreal exists.
Herein lies the peace of God.
—From A Course in Miracles

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Our concern is not how to worship in the catacombs but how to remain human in the skyscrapers.
—Abraham Joshua Heschel

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For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will find it. What good will it be for a main if he gains the whole world, yet forfeits his soul? Or what can a man give in exchange for his soul?
—The Bible, New Testament, Matthew 16: 25-26

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"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to
make you something else is the greatest accomplishment."
—Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Men have become the tools of their tools.
—Henry David Thoreau

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"…In the Country of the Blind the One-Eyed Man is King."
—H. G. Wells, The Country of the Blind

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The inner guru is like the bombshell….And the external guru is the detonator.
—Swami Satyasangananda Saraswati, Light on the Guru and Disciple Relationship

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Ego can take many different forms and shapes. It is like the hydra. You cut off one head and another head replaces it. You cut off that head and you see a third head and a fourth head, ad infinitum. This is because in the manifest dimension, ego identity is the root of life, and if that ego identity is lost, then life as we know it no longer exists. It exists as light, life becomes light.
—Swami Niranjanananda Saraswati, Yoga Dadhana Panorama

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Not thinking about anything is Zen. Once you know this, walking, standing, sitting or lying down, everything you do is Zen.
—Bodhidharma

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One day, an employee of a refrigeration company was accidentally locked up in the ice chamber of a freight train with a temperature of forty degrees below zero. No one heard his shouts for help. He was absolutely terrified and left a record of his suffering scribbled on the walls of the wagon. Significantly, his death was due not to exposure to subzero temperature but sheer fright, because on that day the refrigeration was not switched on. Such is the fate of those who allow their thoughts to be imprisoned in a cold, dark chamber.
—Sri ananda Acharya, retold after Sri Ananda Acharya, Yoga of Conquest

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Youth is not a time of life-it is a state of mind. It is not a matter of ripe cheeks, red lips and supple knees. It is a temper of the will, a quality of the imagination, a vigor of the emotions. It is freshness of the deep springs of life. Nobody grows old by merely living a number of years. People grow old only by deserting their ideals. Years wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul.
—Swami Bua, age 110, cited in "Quotes & quips," Hinduism Today, 2000

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The mind is everything, what you think you become.
—Shakyamuni Buddha

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With our thoughts we make the world.
—Shakyamuni Buddha

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What is is ...the rest is stories."
—Yosy A. Flug

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The universe is made of stories, not of atoms.
—Muriel Rukeyser

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God invented man because He loves stories.
—Hasidic proverb

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Give people a fact or an idea and you enlighten their minds; tell them a story and you touch their souls."
—Hasidic proverb

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I wonder if all there is, is stories.
—Author unknown

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The mind is everything, what you think you become.
With our thoughts we make the world.
—Shakyamuni Buddha

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The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem.
—Theodore Rubin

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According to my calculations the problem doesn't exist.
—Author unknown

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At some point, problems simply leave you, and life becomes more and more miraculous. Life is an adventure that starts like a tragedy, continues as a drama and then becomes an extraordinary comedy.
—Francis Lucille

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All the problems of the world are our own problems, born of the ego.
—Jean Klein, I AM

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No self, no problem.
—Author unknown

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The mind is its own place, and in itself
Can make a Heav'n of Hell, a Hell of Heav'n.
—John Milton, Paradise Lost

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The mind is the most valuable thing in the world.
But the deluded mind can be the most dangerous.
—His Holiness the Dalai Lama

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And so again we make the only choice that ever can be made; we choose between illusions and the truth, or pain and joy, or hell and Heaven.
—The Course in Miracles

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To different minds, the same world is a hell, and a heaven.
—Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Our lives are not determined by what happens to us, but how we respond to what happens, not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life.
—Author Unknown

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If I only had an hour to chop down a tree, I would spend the first 45 minutes sharpening my axe.
—Abraham Lincoln

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Organizing for innovation is a contradiction in terms."
—Jones's Laws of Innovation and the Organization, Corollary 3

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You have to be somebody before you can be nobody.
—Jack Engler

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The ego is suspicious at best and vicious at worst.
—Marianne Williamson

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This is an insane world, and do not underestimate the extent of its insanity. There is no area of your perception that it has not touched.
—A Course in Miracles

Insanity-a perfectly rational adjustment to an insane world.
—R. D. Laing

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Who, except the insane, would ever choose the disquiet of guilt over the peace-filled life lived under the arch of love.
—Kenneth Wapnick

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When a brother behaves insanely, you can heal him only by perceiving the sanity in him.
—A Course in Miracles

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Why be normal when you can be yourself.
—Author Unknown

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I think, therefore I'm dangerous.
—Author unknown

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After the ecstasy, the laundry.
—Zen saying

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First making mad, passionate love, then clean the bathroom together.
—Author Unknown

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We are like one in water crying out "I thirst!"
—Hakuin


George Demont Otis     Seascape

 

"Give your evidence," said the King; "and don't be nervous, or I'll have you executed on the spot."
—Lewis Carroll, Alice's Adventures in Wonderland

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"Begin at the beginning," the King said, very gravely, "and go on till you come to the end: then stop."
—Lewis Carroll, Alice's Adventures in Wonderland

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"The Queen turned crimson with fury, and, after glaring at her for a moment like a wild beast, began screaming "Off with her head! Off with-"
"Nonsense!" said Alice loudly and decidedly, and the Queen was silent."
—Lewis Carroll, Alice's Adventures in Wonderland

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"'But I don't want to go among mad people," Alice remarked.
"Oh, you can't help that," said the Cat. 'We're all mad here. I'm mad. You're mad."
"How do you know I'm mad?" said Alice.
"You must be," said the Cat. 'or you wouldn't have come here.'"
—Lewis Carroll, Alice's Adventures in Wonderland

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"Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?"
"That depends a good deal on where you want to get to," said the Cat.
"I don't much care where-" said Alice.
"Then it doesn't matter which way you go," said the Cat.
"As long as I get SOMEWHERE," Alice added as an explanation.
"Oh, you're sure to do that," said the Cat, "if you only walk long enough."
—Lewis Carroll, Alice's Adventures in Wonderland

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"Well! I've often seen a cat without a grin," thought Alice; "but a grin without a cat! It's the most curious thing I ever saw in all my life!"
—Lewis Carroll, Alice's Adventures in Wonderland

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That is the road we all have to take-over the Bridge of Sighs into eternity.
—Soren Kierkegard

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Who is more foolish, the child afraid of the dark, or the man afraid of the light?
—Maurice Freehill

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We must travel in the direction of our fear.
—John Berryman, Poems

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Things do not change; we change.
—Henry David Thoreau

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As a man is, so he sees.
—William Blake

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We don't see things as they are, we see things as we are.
—Anäis Nin

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Two men looked out through prison bars. One saw mud; the other - stars...
—Author Unknown

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Whatever you see it is always your own being that you see.
—Nisargadatta Maharaj

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A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror.
—Ken Keyes, Jr.

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You can't get what you want by opposing what you don't want.
—Author unknown

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Argue for your limitations, and sure enough they're yours.
—Richard Bach

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The moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too.
All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events, issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and materials assistance which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do or dream, you can begin it now. Boldness has genius, power and magic. Begin it now.
—Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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I would rather be ashes than dust! I would rather that my spark should burn out in a brilliant blaze, than it should be stifled by dry rot. I would rather be a superb meteor, every atom of me in magnificent glow, than a sleepy and permanent planet.
The proper function of man is to live, not to exist. I shall not waste my days
in trying to prolong them. I shall use my time.
—Jack London

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Life that has not been examined, is not worth living.
Life that has not been lived, is not worth examining.
—Attributed to Socrates by Plato

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Nobody dies from lack of sex. It's lack of love we die from.
—Margaret Atwood

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…the kingdom of God is within you.
—The Bible, New Testament, Luke 17: 21

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Man is the measure of all things, of those which are, that they are; of those which are not, that they are not.
—Protagoras

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Homo sum: humani nil a me alienum puto.
—Publius Terentius Afer
I am (a man): nothing human is alien to me.
—Terence, c. 190-158 B.C.

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We are all saints and sinners, adults and children, and no one is anyone's superior or
judge. We have all been awakened with the Buddha, crucified with Christ, and we have all killed and robbed with Genghis Khan, Stalin and Hitler.
—Erich Fromm

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We are all murderers and prostitutes-no matter to what culture, society, class, nation one belongs, no matter how normal, moral, or mature, one takes oneself to be."
—R. D. Laing

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The audience and the artist are valuable to one another as long as you look out there and see yourself, and they look back and see themselves.
—Bruce Springsteen

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I was doing a show on victims confronting their criminals. A 17-year-old girl was on the air speaking to the man who, four years earlier, had beaten her beyond recognition and left her for dead. She'd had 17 surgeries and complete facial reconstruction. She said to him, "I don't hate you. I hate what you did to me. And I have had to learn to forgive you so I could go on with my own life." To this day it is the most powerful thing I've ever seen. In that moment, she expressed why we're here-to learn to love in spite of the human condition, to transcend the human condition of being fearful. We get so bogged down in worldly things we don't understand that we're here for a spiritual quest. Understanding that this journey is the most exciting part of being human has revolutionized my life.
—Oprah Winfrey

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Life is no brief candle to me. It is a...splendid torch... and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it over to future generations.
—George Bernard Shaw

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As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.
—Carl Gustav Jung

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There are two ways of spreading light; to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.
—Edith Wharton

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If your eyes be bright, your whole body shall be full of light.
—The Bible, New Testament, Matthew 6:22

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Light, my light, the world-filling light, the eye-kissing light, heart-sweetening light! Ah, the light dances, my darling, at the centre of my life; the light strikes, my darling, the chords of my love; the sky opens, the wind runs wild, laughter passes over the earth.
—Rabindranath Tagore

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Vocatus atque non vocatus Deus aderit
Called or not called God is present
—Author unknown (Carl Jung had this carved in Latin over the front door of his house in Zurich, Switzerland)

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A great artist needs a heart on fire and a head of ice.
—Friedrich (Wilhelm) Nietzsche

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We are not human beings having a spiritual experience.
We are spiritual beings having a human experience.
—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

You are not a human being, you are being appearing as human.
—Adyashanti, Emptiness Dancing

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The illusion is that Consciousness exists within bodies. The Reality is that bodies exist within consciousness.
—Author unknown

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God is at home, it is we who have gone out for a walk.
—Meister Johannes Eckhart

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(Question: How does the Self awaken within us?)
It is always awake, it is we who are asleep.
—Jean Klein, I AM

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Know that, that which experiences joy is the only part of you which is real, and all else is lies, built upon illusion.
—Ernest F. Pecci, Meditative Insights

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Your identity is in eternity, and your homeland is heaven.
—Rick Warren, The Purpose Driven Life

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"A Soul might say, 'I dropped by to play at being an Ego…and lo and behold, I identified with my Ego and forgot I was a Soul!'"
—Ram Dass, (Richard Alpert), One Liners

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What is the human? The human is a space, an opening, where the universe celebrates its existence."
—Brian Swimme, The Universe is a Green Dragon

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God became man so that man could become god.
—Author unknown

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Imagination is more important than knowledge.
—Albert Einstein

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You never enjoy the world aright, til the Sea itself floweth in your veins, till you are clothed with the heavens and crowned with the stars, and perceive yourself to be the sole heir of the whole world.
—Thomas Traherne

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Be ye lamps unto yourselves.
— Shakyamuni Buddha

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Each of you is perfect the way you are…and you can use a little improvement.
—Shunryu Suzuki

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The only time some people get carried away is at their funeral.
—Dave Weinbaum

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Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.
—Albert Einstein

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Happiness isn't a goal, it's a by-product.
—Eleanor Roosevelt

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Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not one bit simpler.
—Albert Einstein

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This mind that we identify as the self, which we could call ego-mind, controls everything we do. Yet it can't actually be found-which is somewhat spooky, as if a ghost were managing our home. The house seems to be empty, but all the housework has been done. The bed has been made, our shoes have been polished, the tea has been poured, and the breakfast has been cooked.
—Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche, Searching For Self

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There may be bliss with awakening, because it is actually a by-product of awakening, but it is not awakening itself. As long as we are chasing the by-product of awakening, we will miss the real thing.
—Adyashanti


George Demont Otis     Northern California Coast

 

The first rule of holes: when you're in one, stop digging.
—Molly Ivins

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The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.
—Albert Einstein

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No man was ever endowed with a right without being at the same time saddled with a
responsibility.
—Gerald White Johnson

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A person starts to live when he can live outside himself.
—Albert Einstein

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When one sees Eternity in things that pass away and Infinity in finite things, then one has pure knowledge.
—The Bhagavad Gita

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During my second month of nursing school our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had a breezed through the questions, until I read the last one: 'What is the name of the woman who cleans the school?' Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her
50's, but how would I know her name? I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade. 'Absolutely,' said the professor. 'In your careers you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say hello.' I have never forgotten that lesson."
—JoAnn C. Jones

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We each need to make our lion's roar-to persevere with unshakable courage when faced with all manner of doubts and sorrows and fears-to declare our right to awaken. We need to take the one seat, as the Buddha did, and completely face what is true about this life. Make no mistake about this, it is not easy. It can take the courage of a lion or a lioness, especially when we are asked to sit with the depth of our pain or fear.
—Jack Kornfield

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Education is what remains after one has forgotten everything he learned in school.
—Albert Einstein

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Oneness is very simple: everything is included and allowed to live according to its true nature.
—Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee, Working with Oneness

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All the phenomena of existence are one single thing in the ultimate dimension of the unborn.
—Dzogchen Semde

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We are one, after all, you and I. Together we suffer, together exist, and forever will recreate each other.
—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

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From out of all the many particulars comes oneness, and out of oneness come all the many particulars.
—Heraclitus

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Learn to live without self-concern. For this you must know your own true being (swarupa) as indomitable, fearless, ever victorious. Once you know with absolute certainty that nothing can trouble you but your own imagination, you come to disregard your desires and fears, concepts and ideas and live by truth alone.
—Nisargadatta Mahara

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If A is a success in life, then A equals x plus y plus z. Work is x; y is play; and z is keeping your mouth shut.
—Albert Einstein

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Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the universe.
—Albert Einstein

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My guru, before he died, told me: Believe me, you are the Supreme Reality. Don't doubt my words, don't disbelieve me. I am telling you the truth -- act on it. I could not forget his words and by not forgetting -- I have realized.
—Nisargadatta Maharaj

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A human being is a part of a whole, called by us "universe", a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest... a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.
—Albert Einstein

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You must realize first of all that you are the proof of everything, including yourself. None can prove your existence, because his existence must be confirmed by you first. Your being and knowing, you owe nobody. Remember, you are entirely on your own. You do not come from somewhere, you do not go anywhere. You are timeless being and awareness.
—Nisargadatta Mahara

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Great spirits have often encountered violent opposition from weak minds [Mediocrities].
—Albert Einstein

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The wise reject what they think, not what they see.
—Hunag-po

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Our thoughts create the context which determines our feelings.
—Ellen J. Langer, Mindfulness

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We are a great big sense organ of the Self, the Divine.
—Adyashanti

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Emotional reaction is a warning that you are not in Truth…
—Swami Prajnanpad

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I want to unfold. I don't want to stay folded anywhere, because where I am folded, there I am untrue.
—Rainer Maria Rilke

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Yes, God is fair. I'm actually glad I got leprosy. If I hadn't, I wouldn't have come to know God.
—Rabiap Boonma

Reality is simply the loss of ego. Destroy the ego by seeking its identity. Because the ego is no entity it will automatically vanish and reality will shine forth by itself.
—Ramana Maharshi, Be As You Are

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The teaching that the ego does not exist-repeated so often in so parrot-like a way-can help no one, can only create intellectual confusion and thus harm the search for truth. But the teaching that the ego is only an idea-however strongly held by the mind-and as such does exist, can help everyone in the struggle for self-mastery and can throw intellectual light on the search for truth.
—Paul Brunton, Notebooks of Paul Brunton

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Chance favors the prepared mind.
—Louis Pasteur

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The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in the mind at the same time, and still retain the ability to function.
—F. Scott Fitzgerald

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True communication is communion-the realization of oneness which is love.
—Eckhart Tolle

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The consciousness in you and the consciousness in me, apparently two, really one, seek unity and that is love.
—Nisargadatta Maharaj, I AM THAT

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The first time I realized that I was God was one evening when I was praying and I suddenly realized that I was talking to my Self.
—Peter O'Tolle

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We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them.
—Kahil Gibran

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Enlightenment is: do what you want / eat what there is.
—Jack Kerouac

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Madame, there are always two paths to take; one back towards the comforts and security of death, the other forward to nowhere.
—Henry Miller

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It is more important to be in time than one time.
—John Mbiti

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It is an immutable law in business that words are words, explanations are explanations, promises are promises-but only performance is reality.
—Harold S. Geneen

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Philosophy is like tying to open a safe with a combination lock: each little adjustment of the dials seems to achieve nothing, only when everything is in place does the door open.
—Ludwig Wittgenstein

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Never confuse movement with action.
—Ernest Hemingway

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Two things are bad for the heart-running up stairs and running down people.
—Bernard Baruch

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Be a lamp, or a lifeboat, or a ladder.... Walk out of your house like a shepherd.
—Jalaluddin Rumi, poet (1207-1273)

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It began in mystery, and it will end in mystery, but what a savage and beautiful country lies in between.
—Diane Ackerman

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How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at this moment.
—Eckhart Tolle

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Observe the wonders as they occur around you. Don't claim them. Feel the artistry moving through and be silent."
—Rumi

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When the vibrant energy of being aliveness becomes apparent, something else is seen, because it is already all that is."
—Tony Parsons

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Enlightenment is this: you are chasing It, It awakens to Itself and starts chasing anything that isn't It.
—Adyashanti

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A moment comes when "other" is no longer other.
—Baba Ram Dass

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Consciousness is the infinite Presence which is reading these words right now.
—Francis Lucille

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There is never a moment when the Self is not; it is ever-present, here and now.
—Ramana Maharshi

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Presence-a state of clarity, simplicity of pure beingness-a very deep allowing of this moment to be as it is.
—Eckhart Tolle

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Free yourself from sorrow, and be happy. Be happy! For you are joy, unbounded joy. -The Heart of Awareness

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If you can spend a perfectly useless afternoon in a perfectly useless manner, you have learned how to live.
—Lin Yu-T'ang

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Observe the wonders as they occur around you. Don't claim them. Feel the artistry moving through and be silent.
—Rumi

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We have known experientially the spiritual planes of reality, and the experience always comes with the feeling, "I'm home!"
—Baba Ram Dass

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Nothing ever happened in the past that can prevent you from being present now.
—Eckhart Tolle

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Having never left the house, you are looking for the way home.
—Nisargadatta Maharaj

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The past has no power over the present moment.
—Eckhart Tolle

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That, that is, is.
—William Shakespeare

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If enlightenment is not where you are standing, where will you look?
—Zen Saying
 


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