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Specializing in Presence-Centered Therapy
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Skills For Life: The Core Playing Field | Free the Ego, and You Are Free | Feeling, Thought, Communication & Action

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Quotes For Life 1
 

Favorite Acronyms

FEAR: Forgetting Everything's All Right; Forget Everything And Rejoice

False Expectations Appearing Real; False Evidence Appearing Real

DENIAL: Don't Even Notice I Am Lying

EGO: Edging God Out]

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And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music.

—Friedrich Nietzsche

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Lose your mind and come to your senses.

—Fritz Perls

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There is a point at which the ego turns and bows to the Self.

—Carl G. Jung

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The meaning of life is to see!

—Hui Neng

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Follow your bliss.

—Joseph Campbell

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I have no money, no resources, no hopes. I am the happiest man alive!

—Henry Miller

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I fear nothing, I hope for nothing, I am free.

—Nikos Kazantzakis

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Living fully are those who fight;
Whose soul and brow are filled with a definite purpose
Who climb up the fierce summit of a high destiny
Who walk pensive, enthralled with a sublime goal,
Unceasingly looking forward, day and night
To some holy task or some great love.

—Victor Hugo from Les Châtiments, Book 4, Verse IX

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If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.

The Gospel of St. Thomas Logian 45

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It is better to die on your feet than to live on your knees.

—Freedom fighter Dolores Iberruri, known as La Pasionaria, 1936 speech in Paris

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Nowadays people know the price of everything and the value of nothing."

—Oscar Wilde, definition of a cynic

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The most strongly enforced of all known taboos is the taboo against knowing who or what you really are behind the mask of your apparent separate, independent, and isolated ego.

—Alan Watts

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We have it in our power to begin the world over again.

—Thomas Paine

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When someone asks me who they are or what God is,
I smile inside and whisper to the Light: "There you go again. . . pretending."

—Adyashanti

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The truth believed is a lie.

—Werner Erhard

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Reality is that which, when you stop believing it, doesn't go away."

—Philip K. Dick

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The reasonable man adapts himself to the world. The unreasonable man persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore, all progress depends on the unreasonable man.

—George Bernard Shaw

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To know and not do is not yet to fully know.

—Epictetus

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Efficiency is doing things right. Effectiveness is doing the right things.

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Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things.

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There is nothing so useless as doing efficiently that which should not be done at all.

—Peter F. Drucker

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The job of the physician is to entertain the patient while nature does the healing.

—Voltaire

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Jesus said: No prophet is accepted in his own village.
No physician heals the people who know him well.

Gospel of Thomas, Saying 31

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Forget about likes and dislikes. They are
of no consequence. Just do what must be done.
This may not be happiness, but it is greatness.

— George Bernard Shaw, British playwright/author

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Perhaps the most valuable result of all education is the ability to make yourself to do the thing you have to do when it ought to be done whether you like it or not. It is the first lesson that ought to be learned and however early a person's training begins, it is probably the last lesson a person learns thoroughly.

—Thomas Huxley, British biologist

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I would rather be ashes than dust! I would rather that my spark should burn out in a brilliant blaze, than it should be stifled by dry rot. I would rather be a superb meteor, every atom of me in magnificent glow, than a sleepy and permanent planet. The proper function of man is to live, not to exist. I shall not waste my days in trying to prolong them. I shall use my time.

—Jack London

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I didn't cause it,
I can't control it,
I'm not to blame for it,
And I don't have to fix it!

—Barbara Johnson

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Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.

—Kahlil Gibran

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Who is more foolish, the child afraid of the dark, or the man afraid of the light?

—Maurice Freehill

 

George Demont Otis     My Audience

 

We must travel in the direction of our fear."

—John Berryman (Poems, 1942 'A Point of Age')

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The most strongly enforced of all known taboos is the taboo against knowing who or what you really are behind the mask of your apparent separate, independent, and isolated ego.

—Alan Watts

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We have it in our power to begin the world over again.

—Thomas Paine

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When someone asks me who they are or what God is, I smile inside and whisper to the Light: "There you go again. . . pretending."

—Adyashanti

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Drink your tea slowly and reverently, as if this activity is the axis on which the whole world revolves Live the moment. Only this actual moment is life."

—Thich Nhat Hanh

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Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are but princesses who are waiting to see us act just once with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything terrible is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that needs our love.

—Rainer Maria Rilke

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Having a wonderful time. Wish I were here.

—Author Unknown

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The mind is a wonderful servant, but a terrible master.

—Author Unknown

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Man is a god clothed in rags, he is a master of the universe going about begging a crust of bread. He is a king prostrated before his own servants, a prisoner walled in by his own ignorance. He could be free. He has only to walk outof his self-constructed prison, for none holds him there but himself.

—Paul Twitchell

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People travel to wonder at the height of mountains, at the huge waves of the sea,
at the long courses of rivers, at the vast compass of the ocean, at the circular motion of the stars; and they pass by themselves without wondering.

—Saint Augustine

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Other people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to have more things or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.

—Margaret Mead

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It is not actualities, but rather the potentialities, of human nature that
somehow provide us with a standard for a sound and healthy personality.

—Gordon W. Allport

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A rock pile ceases to be a rock pile the moment a single man
contemplates it bearing within him the image of a cathedral.

—Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

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As we were saying yesterday. . .

—Luis Ponce de Leon (1527?-1591), resuming his university lecture after 5 years'
imprisonment by the Inquisition

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Perfection, then, is finally achieved, not when there is nothing left to add, but when there is nothing left to take away."

—Antoine de Saint-Exupery

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People travel to wonder at the height of mountains, at the huge waves of the sea,
at the long courses of rivers, at the vast compass of the ocean, at the circular motion of the stars; and they pass by themselves without wondering.

—Saint Augustine

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There is only one truth, one reality;
everything else is simply entertainment for the mind.

—Gangaji, The Diamond in Your Pocket

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I had been my whole life a bell, and never knew it
until at that moment I was lifted and struck.

—Annie Dillard, Pilgrim at Tinker Creek

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Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take
but by the moments that take our breath away.

—Attributed to George Carlin and Author Unknown
People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine
when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true
beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.

—Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

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And Alice picked up the little cake and on it read, 'Be yourself.'
How funny, Alice thought, what else could I be!

—Lewis Carroll

Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.

—Mahatma Gandhi

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If you don't have a cause worth dying for, then you don't have a cause worth living for.

—Martin Luther King, Jr.

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Pray that your loneliness may spur you into finding something to live for, great enough to die for.

—Dag Hammarskjöld, Markings

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There is only one cause worth dying for, and this is the Oneness of Man, and the reality of his relationship to his Maker.

—Ernest F. Pecci, Meditative Insights

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My revenge is to forgive.

—Gioachino Rossini, La Cernerentola (Cinderella)

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Bearing resentment is like feeding yourself poison and expecting the other person to die.

—Author Unknown

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It is not the answer that enlightens, but the question.

—Eugene Ionesco

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In fact, at this point in history, the most radical, pervasive, and earth-shaking transformation would occur simply if everybody truly evolved to a mature, rational,
and responsible ego, capable of freely participating in the open exchange of mutual
self-esteem. There is the 'edge of history.' There would be a real New Age.

—Ken Wilber, Up From Eden

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This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself
as a mighty one; the being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; the being a force of Nature instead of a feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy."

—George Bernard Shaw

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I looked, as it were, over the world, asking: 'What is there of interest here?
What is there worth doing?' I found but one interest: the desire that other souls should also realize this that I had realized, for in it lay the one effective key for the solving of their problems. The little tragedies of men left me indifferent. I saw one great Tragedy, the cause of all the rest, the failure of man to realize his own Divinity. I saw but one solution, the Realization of that Divinity.

—Franklin Merrell-Wolff, Experience and Philosophy

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Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart.

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Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.

—Carl G. Jung

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The true value of a human being can be found in the degree
to which he has attained liberation from the self.

—Albert Einstein

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One can never consent to creep when one feels an impulse to soar.

—Helen Keller

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God bless the man that has said enough and cannot be persuaded to say any more.

—Ernest K. Gann

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Wise men don't need advice. Fools won't take it.
God helps those who help themselves.

—Benjamin Franklin

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Historians of psychotherapy acknowledge priests and shamans as the first to heal the psyche. A sorcerer, his head crowned with deer's antlers, is depicted on the wall of a cave in southern France, dating from 15,000 B.C. Psychotherapists of one sort or another have been around a long time.

—Arthur J. Deikman, M.D., The Observing Self

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It would have sufficed to deflect [the sperm cell] a fraction of an inch, and Napoleon would not have been conceived, and the destinies of a continent would have been changed.

—Henri Poincaré

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The only way to live is to accept each minute as an unrepeatable miracle, which is exactly what it is: a miracle and unrepeatable.

—Storm Jameson

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For the Self alone is the friend of the self, and the self alone is the enemy of the Self. We must deliver ourselves with the help of our minds…for one who has conquered the mind, the mind is the best of friends; but for one who has failed to do so, the mind will remain the greatest enemy.

—Bhagavad Gita

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Surely, people who ask about the meaning of life should simply be told:
The meaning of life is what is happening at the precise point in the universe
where you are standing, walking, lying, or sitting at this moment-whatever you
are doing or not doing. The only thing that matters is the kind of energy that goes
out from that spot-whether it brings life or death, light or darkness, warmth or cold.

—Karlfried Graf Dürckheim, Absolute Living

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People say that what we're all seeking is a meaning for life. I don't think that's what we're really seeking. I think that what we're seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonances within our own innermost being and reality, so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive.

—Joseph Campbell, The Power of Myth

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To penetrate into the essence of all being and significance, and to release the fragrance of that inner attainment for the guidance and benefit of others by expressing in the world forms of truth, love, purity and beauty: this is the sole game which has any intrinsic and absolute worth. All other happenings, incidents and attainments can, in themselves, have no lasting importance."

—Meher Baba, Is That So?

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He is calling upon us to become fully human [Anthropos].
Therefore let us atone, and become fully human [Anthropos].

The Gospel of Mary Magdalene

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For me the meaning is that we are all one, and the only true reality is the spirit. Believing in the power of spirit is simply to have a passion for life, to learn, to grow, to evolve and most of all to love, and live each day and each moment of the day to the fullest.

—Tatjana Patitz

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Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.

—Helen Keller

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The aim of life is to live, and to live means to be aware, joyously, drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware.

—Henry Miller

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Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well-preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, glass of wine in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming 'YAA HOO! Holy shit…what a ride!'

—Author unknown

 

George Demont Otis     Peace and Plenty

 

I would rather burn out than rust out.
It's better to burn out than to fade away.

—Neil Young

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In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer.

—Albert Camus

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The privilege of a lifetime is to be yourself.

—Joseph Campbell

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Be Right or be happy?

The Course in Miracles

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How much longer do you want to continue your argument with reality?

—Adyashanti

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If you're arguing with what is in the moment, you're arguing with God. . .

—Chetan Vartman

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In a fight between you and the world, bet on the world.

—Attributed to both Franz Kafka and Frank Zappa

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When you argue with reality, you lose-but only 100 percent of the time.

—Byron Katie

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You can't argue with what is. Well, you can, but if you do, you suffer.

—Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth

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You are always That so be like the breeze that is attached to neither the garbage nor the garden that it blows over.

—H. W. L. Poonja, THIS

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Among the great things which are to be found among us, the Being of Nothingness is the greatest.

—Leonardo Da Vinci

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The mind is empty infinity, infinite emptiness, full of possibilities.

—Yamada Roshi

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The True Teacher has no students, all is BEing and only silence speaks.
The Perfect Teacher has no teachings because he know that you are free already.
So the True Teacher's non-teaching is that there is no teacher, no student,
no teaching and that Nothing has ever existed.

—H.W.L. Poonja (Papaji), The Truth Is

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How can any finite vessel hope to contain the endless God? Therefore, see yourself as nothing; only one who is nothing can contain the fullness of the Presence.

—Menahem Nahum

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The game is not about becoming somebody, it's about becoming nobody.

—Ram Dass

Who is content with nothing possesses all things.

—Nicolas Boileau Despréaux

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All that is required to realize the Self is to be still.

—Ramana Maharshi

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Words, words, words—fluttering drizzle and snow.
Silence, silence, silence—a roaring thunderbolt.

—Ch'an (Zen) Buddhist, Chinese poetry couplet (Shigematsu Osho, translator)

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Once Fa-yen was asked, "What is the first principle? He answered:
"If I should tell you, it would become the second principle.

—Zen mondo

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What is your aim in philosophy?-to show the fly the way out of the fly-bottle.

—Ludwig Wittgenstein

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If I could tell you what it meant, there would be no point in dancing it.
"No, I can't explain the dance to you; If I could say it—I wouldn't have to dance it!"

—Isadora Duncan

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I used to think I was poor. Then they told me I wasn't poor, I was needy. Then they told me it was self-defeating to think of myself as needy. I was deprived. (Oh, not deprived, but rather underprivileged.) Then they told me that underprivileged was overused. I was disadvantaged. I still don't have a dime. But I have a great vocabulary.

—Jules Feiffer

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Silence is the true teaching. It is the perfect teaching.
It is suited only for the most advanced. Others are unable to draw full inspiration from it. Therefore they require words to explain the Truth. But Truth is beyond words. It does not admit of explanation. All that it is possible to do is only to indicate It.

—Ramana Maharshi

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To attempt to share through words the rediscovery and wonder of who we are is as futile a process as writing a recipe for plum pudding and expecting someone reading it to be able to taste it.

—Tony Parsons, The Open Secret

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Zen is the madman yelling, "If you wanta tell me that the stars are not words, then stop calling them stars!"

—Jack Kerouac

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"-If the sun and moon should doubt, They'd immediately go out-."

—William Blake

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"Doubt thou the stars are fire, doubt that the sun doth move,
doubt truth to be a liar, but never doubt I love."

—William Shakespeare, Hamlet, Act 2, Scene 2

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There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear. . .

—The Bible, New Testament, 1 John 4:18

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I don't believe in any philosophy that doesn't help raise corn!

—Sun Bear, Author and a native American Chippewa Indian

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Tell a person there are 300 billion stars in the universe and they will believe you. Tell them a bench has wet paint on it and they will have to touch it to be sure.

—Author unknown

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First there is a time when we believe everything without reasons,
then for a little while we believe with discrimination,
then we believe nothing whatever, and then we believe everything again -
and, moreover, give reasons why we believe everything.

—G. C. Lichtenberg

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True faith is what remains after you lose all your beliefs.

—Yosy A. Flug

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If a person would experience their beliefs and say, 'Is it true? Who would I be
without the belief', then we would surely see the end of suffering.
No suffering can hold in Truth.

—Byron Katie

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How do you govern a country with two thousand different cheeses?

—Charles De Gaulle

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Iron hand in a velvet glove.

—Attributed to Charles V of Spain by Carlyle

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There is a homely adage which runs "Speak softly and carry a big stick, you will go far."

—Theodore (Teddy) Roosevelt

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A great artist needs a heart on fire and a head of ice.

—Friedrich (Wilhelm) Nietzsche

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"…to be like pure white silk and a very sharp iron."

—Shunryu Suzuki, Not Always So

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Bewilderment is the true comprehension. Not to know where you are going is the true knowledge.

—Martin Luther

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The more I read, the more I meditate, and the more I acquire, the more certain I am that I know nothing.

—Voltaire

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We don't know one millionth of one per cent about anything.

—Thomas Alva Edison

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If you ask me anything I don't know, I'm not going to answer.

—Yogi Berra

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Indeed he knows not how to know who knows not also how to un-know.

—Sir Richard Francis Burton

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Man can learn nothing except by going from the known to the unknown.

—Claude Bernard

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Education consists in mainly in what we have unlearned.

—Mark Twain

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The hardest person to wake up is the one who thinks he's already awake.

—Mahatma Gandhi

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The most relentless enemy to learning is what you already know.

—John Hanley, Lifespring [italics in original]

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Existing in ignorance, though thinking themselves knowledgeable and wise, the egotistical ones wander aimlessly, jostled about like the blind led by the blind.

Mundaka Upanishad, 2.8

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To know that you do not know is the best.
To pretend to know when you do not know is a disease.

—Lao Tzu

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My greatest strength as a consultant is to be ignorant and ask a few questions.

—Peter F. Drucker

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Ignorance is only found in the "I" of the beholder.

—Charles Hillig

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I am looking for a lot of men who have an infinite capacity to not know what can't be done.

—Henry Ford

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Those who know, they know even without my saying and those who do not know,
will not know even if I say something. Any description of light to a blind man is of no use. There is no point in talking to those who have not tasted the ambrosia of life, and therefore I am silent. How can you convey something so intimate and personal? Words cannot. And as many scriptures in the past have declared words end where truth begins.

—Shakyamuni Buddha

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In Buddhism, knowledge is regarded as an obstacle to understanding.

—Thich Nhat Hanh

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There ain't no answer. There ain't gonna be any answer. There never has been an answer. That's the answer.

—Gertrude Stein

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Know thyself.
Nothing to excess.

—Two famous inscriptions at the temple of Apollo at Delphi (the ancient Greek place of wisdom)

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It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows in the end the triumph of high achievement; and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.

—Theodore Roosevelt

 

George Demont Otis     Marin Homestead

 

Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence.
Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent.
Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb.
Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts.
Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent."

—Calvin Coolidge

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If you can't be a good example, then you'll just have to be a horrible warning.

—Catherine Aird

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Everyone's a pacifist between wars. It's like being a vegetarian between meals.

—Colman McCarthy

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Agitators are a set of interfering, meddling people who come down to some perfectly contented class of the community and sow the seeds of discontent among them. That is the reason why agitators are so absolutely necessary.

—Oscar Wilde

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Soft is stronger than hard, water stronger than rock, love stronger than violence.

—Hermann Hesse

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"The first principal of nonviolent action is that of noncooperation with everything humiliating.

—Cesar Chavez

When Hitler attacked the Jews I was not a Jew, therefore, I was not concerned. And when Hitler attacked the Catholics, I was not a Catholic, and therefore, I was not concerned. And when Hitler attacked the unions and the industrialists, I was not a member of the unions and I was not concerned. Then, Hitler attacked me and the Protestant church-and there was nobody left to be concerned."

—Martin Niemöller (1892-1984) , after being released from Dachau, 1945
In Congressional Record 14 October, 1968, P. 31636

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If you tell a lie big enough and keep repeating it, people will eventually come to believe it. The lie can be maintained only for such time as the State can shield the people from the political, economic and/or military consequences of the lie. It thus becomes vitally important for the State to use all of its powers to repress dissent, for the truth is the mortal enemy of the lie, and thus by extension, the truth is the greatest enemy of the State.

—Joseph Goebbels

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When fascism comes to America it will be wrapped in the flag and carrying a cross.

—Sinclair Lewis

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Of course the people don't want war. . . That is understood. But after all, it is the leaders of the country who determine the policy, and it's always a simple matter to drag the people along whether it's a democracy, a fascist dictatorship, a parliament, or a communist dictatorship. Voice or no voice, the people can always be brought to the bidding of the leaders. That is easy. All you have to do is tell them they are being attacked, and denounce the pacifists for lack of patriotism and exposing the country to danger. It works the same in any country.

—Hermann Goering, Adolf Hitler's Deputy Chief and Luftwaffe Commander, at the Nuremberg trials in 1946, quoted in "Nuremberg Diary", by G.M. Gilbert (Signet, New York, 1947).

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Having the world's best idea will do you no good unless you act on it. People who want milk shouldn't sit on a stool in the middle of a field in hopes that a cow will back up to them.

—Curtis Grant

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Ah, but man's reach should exceed his grasp, or what's heaven for?

—Robert Browning

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…try to love the questions themselves like locked rooms and books that are written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.

—Rainer Marie Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

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If 50 million people say a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing.

—Anatole France

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One thing only I know, and that is that I know nothing.

—Socrates

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You don't come to know by knowing; you come to know by not knowing.

—Adyashanti

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Zen teaches nothing; it merely enables us to wake up and become aware. It does not teach, it points.

—D.T. Suzuki

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A mind that is fast is sick. A mind that is slow is sound. A mind that is still is divine.

—Meher Baba

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Every cell, every living organism on this planet, has a biological imperative, a built-in innate desire to survive. When we put a belief in the way, that distorts the natural harmony, the balance, and that is where it all falls apart. If you put a cell free in an environment, it will seek the most happy, stable harmonious environment-which is love.

—Bruce Lipton

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You can have your beliefs. Just don't believe in them.

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The truth is beyond belief.

—Leonard Jacobson

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Contemplate this: there is no such thing as a true belief.

—Adyashanti, Emptiness Dancing

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Most people believe if they "have" a thing (more time, money, love—whatever), then they can finally "do" a thing (write a book, take up a hobby, go on vacation, buy a home, undertake a relationship), which will allow them to "be" a thing (happy, peaceful, content, or in love).

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In actuality, they are reversing the Be-Do-Have paradigm. In the universe as it really is (as opposed to how you think it is), "havingness" does not produce "beingness," but the other way around.

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First you "be" the thing called "happy" (or "knowing," or "wise," or "compassionate," or whatever), then you start "doing" things from this place of beingness-and soon you discover that what you are doing winds up bringing you the things you've always wanted to "have."

—Neale Donald Walsch, Conversations with God: An Uncommon Dialogue Book 3

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What disturbs men's minds is not events but their judgments on events.

—Epictetus

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Honey, get off the cross. Somebody else needs the wood.

—Dolly Parton

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There is a road from the eye to the heart that does not go through the intellect.

—G. K. Chesterton

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Don't seek reality. Just put an end to opinions.

—Seng-Ts'an

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The best way out is always through.

—Robert Frost

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If you understand, things are just as they are;
If you do not understand, things are just as they are.

—Zen proverb

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This "I and mine" causes the whole misery.

—Swami Vivekananda

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What, at this moment, is lacking?

—Lin-chi

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You cannot have a little integrity or a lot of integrity. There is no sliding scale for integrity. You either have it, or you don't.

—Rosemarie B. Greco

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Yes and No are the two most important words that you will ever say. These are the two words that determine your destiny in life.

—Author unknown

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Our outer world reflects our inner conditions.

—Duane Elgin

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Ultimately, the only healthy person is a Buddha.

—Dalai Lama

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You're bound to become a Buddha if you practice. If water drips long enough even rocks wear through.

—Shih-wu

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Chanting is no more holy than listening to the murmur of a stream, counting prayer beads not more sacred than simply breathing, religious robes no more spiritual than work clothes.

—Lao-tsu

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If the wrong person preaches a right teaching, even a right teaching becomes wrong. If the right person expounds a wrong teaching, even a wrong teaching becomes right.

—Muso Kukushi

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Losing an illusion makes you wiser than finding a truth

—Ludwig Börne

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The true value of a human being can be found in the degree to which he has attained liberation from the self.

—Albert Einstein

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I feel there are two people inside of me-me and my intuition. If I go against her, she'll screw me every time, and if I follow her, we get along quite nicely.

—Kim Basinger

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Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards.

—SØREN KIERKEGAARD

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Love is the difficult realization that something other than oneself is real.

—Iris Murdock

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The key to an easy relationship with other people is not to impose your ego, nor crush the ego of others.

—Swami Prajnanpad

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Three things are essential: great doubt, great faith, and great perseverance.

—Zen saying

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Hate the sin and love the sinner.

—Mahatma Gandhi

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To the mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders.

—Taoist saying

 

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