Welcome to the archived web site of
Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. Psychologist (1950-2013)
California License No. PSY 10092
Specializing in Presence-Centered Therapy
balancing mind and heart, body and spirit

Now in memoriam - This website is no longer being updated
While Dr. Friedman is no longer with us, there are still many helpful resources on his site. Articles and resource links have been relocated to the top. His family hopes you might find them helpful. But since this site is no longer being updated, some links may no longer work.


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From His Book | Meditations For Life | The Flow of Money, Business and Innovation | Transpersonal/Mind-Body | Approaches, Worldview and Will-isms

Skills For Life: The Core Playing Field | Free the Ego, and You Are Free | Feeling, Thought, Communication & Action

Strategies/Distinctions For Life: The Core Playing Field | Free the Ego, and You Are Free

Awakening Stories/Metaphors For Life: The Core Playing Field | Free the Ego, and You Are Free | The Way It Is

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Fact Sheet for Couples Experiencing Infertility

© 2011 by Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved Worldwide.

Couples coping with infertility often experience a roller coaster of emotional experiences. Typically this includes anger in the form of irritability and frustration, anxiety in the form or inner agitation, tension and poor concentration, guilt and shame as well as depression and grief over numerous perceived losses. While all of this is normal enough given the stressful process of dealing with infertility, many individuals and couples can make significant gains in their repertoire of emotional coping skills and enhance their abilities to offer each other essential support.

In working with couples that struggle with infertility for over 15 years, the greatest gains have come from improvements in several areas. These include stress management skills, emotional processing abilities, and quality of couple communication, supporting each other's dreams, regularly giving the gift of patience, and facing realities with honesty, compassion, and kindness. Some couples have found that traveling the difficult pathway of infertility can be a “blessing in disguise”— turning lemons into lemonade — when they use these challenges to strengthen and enrich their growth as individuals, partners, family members and friends. Counseling with a professional attuned to the issues of infertility can make a positive difference.

George Demont Otis     Valley Creek

What is Available to Address Infertility Issues

  • Hone an awareness of the present and the ability to witness your own mind for sanity's sake
  • Resolve blame and fault, embarrassment and discomfort, guilt and shame over the treatment process and if intervention approaches are less than effective
  • Know how to operate out of ‘real choice' in generating personal consequences, weighing the tradeoffs, and wisely picking from treatments and alternatives
  • Make your emotional peace and create closure by knowing where you “draw the line” in how far you will go in having basic / advanced treatments for infertility
  • Know healthy ways to move through and transform difficult emotional and mental states, including the drawing upon your religious and spiritual commitments
  • Address stressful/emotional impact upon sleep, appetite, concentration, work, and intimacy, in addition to setting limits with the use of escapes like alcohol and drugs, shopping, busyness, obsessive thinking, workaholism and other addictive patterns
  • Gain the assertive and boundary-setting abilities to have a meaningful, strong “voice” in requesting support, sharing your feelings, delegating some duties, knowing and using pacing skills in addition to being able to make requests and receive what you really need
  • Have necessary tools (for example, skills, distinctions and maps) and strategies (for example, sequences, game plans and tactics) for healthy growth at this time.

George Demont Otis     Alders Lagunitas
© Copyright 2013 by Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D.

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