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Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. Psychologist (1950-2013)
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Specializing in Presence-Centered Therapy
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Two Great Experiments to Establish a New Habit
Pointers to a Proactive, Consciously Evolving Life
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cannot put off living until we are ready. The most salient characteristic
Each of us possesses the power to transform our world in the only time that existsNow. When we break out of the mind's mold of only one way, whether on a personal or collective basis, we open up the present opening for all possibilities and our ability to flexibly play and improvise, invent and envision, transform and transcend. It's the smallest movements that can produce the greatest strides.
How long does it take on average to establish a new habit? There is the motivational cliché that it takes approximately 21 days or about three weeks to establish a new habit so long as the new behavior is done consistently. This so-called common wisdom may have its source in the book Psycho-Cybernetics (1960) by Maxwell Maltz, M.D. 1 who noticed that amputees took on the average 21 days to adjust to the loss of a limb. He drew the conclusion that people take approximately 21 days to adjust or adapt to any major life changes. A recent scientific study by Phillippa Lally and colleagues from the University College London found that on the average a plateau in automaticity for a new habit like changing a daily pattern, whether it is running for fifteen minutes or eating a piece of fruit for lunch, was reached after 66 days, although it varied from 18 days up to 254 days in the habits examined in this study. 2
We can engage two great experiments for a proactive, consciously evolving life:
You might have noticed by now that human beings are remarkably inconsistent animals. So it behooves you to have these two experiments take hold means to do the new behavior, attitude, thought pattern or way working with a specific feeling as consistently as you possibly can. What makes these two improvisations great is that each can be truly empowering-that is, counting on yourself as your own authority. With each you actively engage the power within you to re-design your life at any time. Naturally as human beings there is the adaptive, conscious yearning to grow and realize who we are. These experiments provide an incredibly simply structure for this spontaneous, intuitive interest. With life being fired at every one of us point-blank moment by moment, as the opening quote by Jose Ortega y Gasset makes crystal clear, here are a couple ways to fire back with awareness and discernment.
Maltz, Maxwell (1960) Psycho-Cybernetics. New York: Pocket Books.
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