Welcome to the archived web site of
Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. Psychologist (1950-2013)
California License No. PSY 10092
 
Specializing in Presence-Centered Therapy
balancing mind and heart, body and spirit

Now in memoriam - This website is no longer being updated
While Dr. Friedman is no longer with us, there are still many helpful resources on his site. Articles and resource links have been relocated to the top. His family hopes you might find them helpful. But since this site is no longer being updated, some links may no longer work.

 


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The Flow of Money, Business and Innovation

Being Outside of the Box—Author Unknown

Before you can think outside the box, you must realize you’re in one.
—Dave Weinbaum

In the early 20th century, a British mathematician devised "The Puzzle of the Nine Points." The object of the puzzle is to connect nine points in a three-by-three grid without lifting pen from paper, using just four straight lines. The solution to this puzzle gave rise to the phrase "think outside the box" which has come to stand for creativity and unconventional thinking in one's private life and career.

The Nine Dot Puzzle

Starting from any point, draw four continuous lines (without lifting the pen)
so that each of the nine dots has at least one line running through it.

Pause and consider before scrolling down. . .

 

9 Dot Puzzle Solution


 

You are driving along in your little sports car on a wild, stormy night. You pass by a bus stop, and you see three people waiting for the bus:

  1. An old lady who looks as if she is about to die.
  2. An old friend who once saved your life.
  3. The perfect man (or) woman you have been dreaming about.

What would you do, knowing that there is room for only one passenger in your car?

Pause, consider, look and see before you read any further.

This is a moral/ethical dilemma that was once used as part of a job application. You could pick up the old lady, because she is going to die, and thus you should save her first; or you could take the old friend because he once saved your life, and this would be the perfect chance to pay him back. However, you may never be able to find your perfect dream lover again.

The candidate who was hired (out of 200 applicants) had no trouble coming up with his answer. What did he say?

He simply answered: "I would give the car keys to my old friend, and let him take the lady to the hospital. I would stay behind and wait for the bus with the woman of my dreams."

Remember what is available at all times: Being outside of the box.

This is a test for Smart People. . .

After much consideration, I have determined that you qualify. The following short quiz consists of 4 questions and will tell you whether you are qualified to be a professional. Scroll down for each answer. The questions are NOT that difficult. But don't scroll down UNTIL you have answered the question!
1. How do you put a giraffe into a refrigerator?

The correct answer is: Open the refrigerator, put in the giraffe, and close the door. This question tests whether you tend to do simple things in an overly complicated way.
2. How do you put an elephant into a refrigerator?

Did you say, open the refrigerator, put in the elephant, and close the refrigerator?
Wrong Answer.
Correct Answer: Open the refrigerator, take out the giraffe, put in the elephant and close the door. This tests your ability to think through the repercussions of your previous actions.

3. The Lion King is hosting an animal conference. All the animals attend. . . except one. Which animal does not attend?

Correct Answer: The elephant. The elephant is in the refrigerator. You just put him in there. This tests your memory.

Okay, even if you did not answer the first three questions correctly, you still have one more chance to show your true abilities:

4. There is a river you must cross but it is used by crocodiles, and you do not have a boat. How do you manage it?

Correct Answer: You jump into the river and swim across. Have you not been listening? All the crocodiles are attending the animal conference. This tests whether you learn quickly from your mistakes.


George Demont Otis         Marshland Inverness

According to Anderson Consulting Worldwide, around 90% of the professionals they tested got all questions wrong, but many preschoolers got several correct answers. Anderson Consulting says this conclusively disproves the theory that most professionals have the brains of a four-year-old. PS: Just the fact that I sent it to you should make you feel good.
 

Here's to the Crazy Ones

(Courtesy of Apple Computer, adapted from the writings of Jack Kerouac)

The misfits.
The rebels.
The troublemakers.
The round pegs in the square holes.
The ones who see things differently.
They're not fond of rules.
And they have no respect for the status quo.

You can praise them, disagree with them, quote them,
disbelieve them, glorify or vilify them.
About the only thing you can't do is ignore them.
Because they change things.

They invent. They imagine. They heal.
They explore. They create. They inspire.
They push the human race forward.

Maybe they have to be crazy.
How else can you stare at an empty canvas
and see a work of art?

Or sit in silence and hear a song
that's never been written?

Or gaze at a red planet
and see a laboratory on wheels?

While some may see them as the crazy ones,
we see genius.

Because the people who are crazy enough
to think they can change the world,
are the ones who do.
 

 
© Copyright 2013 by Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D.
 
 


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