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Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. Psychologist (1950-2013)
California License No. PSY 10092
Specializing in Presence-Centered Therapy
balancing mind and heart, body and spirit
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Give and Get; Give Not and Get Not
© 2011 by Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved.
Unknown, Commentary by Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D.
An old Native-American grandfather said to his grandson who came to him with anger at a friend who had done him an injustice. . .
"Let me tell you a story. I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those that have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do. But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your enemy. It is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times."
He continued, "It is as if there are two wolves inside me; One is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is the right thing to do so, and in the right way. He saves all his energy for the right fight."
"But the other wolf, ahhh! He is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger, for his anger will change nothing."
"Sometimes it is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both of them try to dominate my spirit."
The boy looked intently into his grandfather's eyes and asked. . .
"Which one wins, Grandfather?"
The grandfather smiled and quietly said. . . "The one I feed."
Doesn't this story illustrate a universal experience? Consider this: Whatever we give money, time, energy, activity and importance to, we get more of. Whatever we withdraw money, time, energy, activity and importance to, we get less of. I figure everyone gets to discover at least one universal law. Well, this is Will's Law. Honor it.
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